How to Give an Ultimatum About Relationship

Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, relationships need to have an ultimatum. There are a few steps to take before having this discussion with your partner, and an ultimatum should really be a last resort in your relationship, as it can sometimes mean the end of your relationship. If you feel like you need to give an ultimatum, read on to see how to do it.

Take Some Time

Make sure that you’ve had time to reflect on the relationship and examine your feelings. Ultimatums aren’t something to rush into. Make sure that you are going into the discussion clear, calm, and having already dealt with your emotions.

Be Appropriate

Have the discussion at an appropriate time. Make sure that neither you or your partner are stressed, tired, or hungry. This conversation may last a while, so be sure to set aside ample time to discuss your relationship with your partner. Also make sure that you’re being reasonable with what you’re asking.

Be Clear

During the discussion you need to be straight forward with what you want the other person to do and what your expectations are for the relationship. Make sure that you have responses ready for arguments that may come up, but be kind and firm when you give them. Let them know what the outcome will be if they choose to act certain ways.

Be Ready for the Negative

In general, people don’t like ultimatums, and you shouldn’t expect your partner to be happy after you discussion. It’s normal for them to want some time alone to process their feelings, and the best thing you can do is give them this time. Don’t get upset if they lash out at you, either to your face or behind you back.

Get Ready to Walk Away

Unfortunately, ending the relationship is one outcome of an ultimatum. This can be heartbreaking for both parties, but this is something that you need to be prepared to do before you have the conversation with your partner. You have to be consistent with what you said or your partner will not believe you. Make sure that you’re willing to follow through.

Ultimatums are a really difficult way to end a relationship, but sometimes they are the only way to protect yourself and the ones that you love. If you find yourself in a situation where you have to give an ultimatum, take some time for yourself afterwards. You’re going to need to surround yourself with people who love you and learn to be on your own.