43 Quotes About Abusive Men

Working with a diverse group of people, it is understood that in many cases of violence against women normally are the result of male related issues. These quotes about abusive men highlight some of the dangerous behaviors associated with these individuals.

“Abuse a man unjustly, and you will make friends for him.”

“Abuse changes your life… Fight Back and change the life of your abusers by Breaking Your Silence on Abuse!”

“Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.”

“Abuse if you slight it, will gradually die away; but if you show yourself irritated, you will be thought to have deserved it.”

“Abuse is abuse; Be nice.. Harsh words don’t break bones but they often break hearts.”

“An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit.”

“Any abuse of animals is the same as abuse of men, women, or children.”

“As long as fathers rule but do not nurture, as long as mothers nurture but do not rule, the conditions favoring the development of father-daughter incest will prevail.”

“As long as we see abusers as victims, or as out-of-control monsters, they will continue getting away with ruining lives. If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation.”

“Because the child does not have the power to withhold consent, she does not have the power to grant it.”

“Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.”

“Disrespect also can take the form of idealizing you and putting you on a pedestal as a perfect woman or goddess, perhaps treating you like a piece of fine china.”

“Do you never look at yourself when you abuse another person?”

“Every abuse ought to be reformed, unless the reform is more dangerous than the abuse itself.”

“I know you didn’t see the violence and need for control in him in the beginning, but I’m sure it was there. Nothing you did turned him into such an abusive man.”

“In some instances, even when crisis intervention has been intensive and appropriate, the mother and daughter are already so deeply estranged at the time of disclosure that the bond between them seems irreparable.”

“It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.”

“Learn to use an axe, and respect it and you can’t help but love it. But abuse one and it will wear your hands raw and open your foot like an overcooked sausage.”

“Men will let you abuse them if only you will make them laugh.”

“Never join with your friend when he abuses his horse or his wife, unless the one is about to be sold, and the other to be buried.”

“Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves.”

“Not all forms of abuse leave bruises.”

“Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time.”

“Overcoming abuse doesn’t just happen, It takes positive steps everyday. Let today be the day you start to move forward.”

“Pity those who nature abuses; never those who abuse nature.”

“So many people suffer from abuse, and suffer alone.”

“Some who question the authenticity of the memories of abuse do so in part because of the intensity and sincerity of the accused persons who deny the abuse.”

“The abuse of a harmless thing is the essence of sin.”

“The abuse of greatness is when it disjoins remorse from power.”

“The abuser does not believe, however, that his level of authority over the children should be in any way connected to his actual level of effort or sacrifice on their behalf, or to how much knowledge he actually has about who they are or what is going on in their lives.”

“The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands.”

“The abusive partner continually denies any responsibility for problems.”

“The biggest abuses in society happen when people are not able to communicate and not able to connect.”

“The greater the power, the more dangerous the abuse.”

“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious.”

“The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when she doesn’t want intimate contact.”

“These are the four abuses: desire to succeed in order to make oneself famous; taking credit for the labors of others; refusal to correct one’s errors despite advice; refusal to change one’s ideas despite warnings.”

“Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy.”

“Verbal abuse is still abuse. It’s abuse in the form of words. Don’t assume that a few hurtful words won’t cost them their life. Words hurt.”

“We should meet abuse by forbearance. Human nature is so constituted that if we take absolutely no notice of anger or abuse, the person indulging in it will soon weary of it and stop.”

“When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable.”

“Whipping and abuse are like laudanum; you have to double the dose as the sensibilities decline.”

“Women need total life support services for the mother as she and the family move through the crisis following disclosure.”

Sometimes it is the abuse that men suffer from that cause them to become the abusers. Understanding the dynamic of these interpersonal relationships can help to break the cycle.